Capturing the moment is about making the best out of our encounters with the people we meet and interacting with. this can be as simple as the checkout person at the gas station you stop at regularly or as frequent as the people we work with daily. How we interact with them affects both us and them, no matter how insignificant we believe the interaction has been. George Washington wrote about the 110 rules for civility. George Washington's Rules of Civility . These rules were applicable then and they still are today. Rule number 1. every action done in company ought to be with some sign of respect to those that are present. and rule number 110. Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire called conscience. How we talk with others should be tempered with a healthy dose of respect for the other person we are speaking to but also to the people who are around us also. The way we talk and the content of the speech we use should also be weighted in the balance of conscience. If we do not listen to our conscience and just speak our mind without thought and turn or tongue loose to speak as it wishes we will end up being ineffective in our language skills and getting our point across, or worse we will convey a hurtful incorrect message that will affect the person we are talking to. Talking about someone to another is called gossip. Gossip is never appropriate and never meant to be uplifting. Have you ever heard someone Gossiping about how well someone did something or how nice they are? Gossip is always used as a negative in relaying information to another. gossip in front of other s is even more harmful in that it is now slanderous and not only hurts the person being gossiped about but the person that just happens to hear it also. It takes no more energy to tell someone they have done a good job, or to tell them in a nurturing way how they can make improvements or change for the better without saying things in a harmful manner. Tone and voice inflection are also key components in getting the message across to our listeners that we want them to receive. Words spoken in kindness and understanding will be like honey, words spoken in harsh tones or insincerity are like a taskmasters lashes with a whip. This is where a conscience would be effective assistant in your communication skills, a genuine caring attitude and concern for the people we interact with, will show in the words we use with the people around us and make the words we use more meaningful and beneficial to who ever we are talking to.